How to decipher her flirting signals

By: Dr. Pam Spurr

Even the savviest man can sometimes find it difficult to read whether a woman's just being friendly or if she's actually flirting with you. Signals of attraction aren't always straightforward so here's a rundown on 10 key signs to watch out for:

1 - The eyes have it - When you spot her across a room you notice that she doesn't just do a 'double take'. She actually does a triple take, glancing at you three times to confirm her attraction to you. Keep an eye out for that third glance and you'll know that she's interested.

2 - Wandering eyes - Things might've seemed to go well in the first few minutes of conversation but then you notice her eyes seemed to wander around the room. Whenever the door opens or closes she can't help but glance in the direction. Unfortunately you've lost her interest.

3 - Watch that fiddling - Yes, women often fiddle with their hair and that can signal flirtatious attraction but it can equally signal nerves. Take note if she starts to fiddle with her necklace while chatting to you. This is a key signal of attraction because she is subconsciously drawing your eye-line to her cleavage.

4 - Not any old laugh - Not only does she laugh at your jokes but she throws her head back and seems lost in the moment. Wow, you've never felt so funny. When attracted to someone soon after meeting them it's been found that a woman will magnify your sense of humour in her mind. So if she's into you, she's into your jokes too.

5 - Time doesn't matter - Anyone who knows what they're doing on the dating scene will usually claim to have only a 'little time' as a man chats them up. This gives them a get-out clause if they decide they're not attracted to you within a short time. So if suddenly she seems to have all the time in the world it's an excellent sign.

6 - Get closer - You notice that when she comes back from, eg, the ladies room that she pulls her chair closer to you. Not only has she touched up her make-up - so she's feeling at her best - but she now wants to get up close and personal with you too.

7 - In the pink - As you two chat she seems to flush/blush a bit - known as the 'sex glow'. Unless she's been drinking a lot - and this is the result of excess alcohol - it's a physical sign that she's feeling warm and cozy in your company.

8 - Swaying is the way - Again, as long as she's not been drinking excessively look out for her body swaying gently in time with your conversation. This will take the form of discreet little back and forth movements that show she's mirroring your body language. Mirroring is a clear signal of attraction so relax - you might find you mirror her movements back.

9 - It's all about you - You notice her conversation doesn't just to revolve around her life or general interest topics like hobbies but she asks direct questions about you. She seems keen to hear what you have to say, about what makes you tick, your likes and dislikes, etc. And that means she's really taking an interest.

10 - All important hesitation - As the evening draws to a close and you're about to go your separate ways she seems to hesitate. There is a distinct 'moment' of pause where she doesn't rush to get her coat or charge for the door. This is a clear signal she wants you to take her number or definitely give her a call if you already have it. If you're interested in her then go for it.